Holistic Coach and Consultant
Story and Coaching
Copyright © 2017
The only constant is change. Believing I would only leave Vermont feet first—I was living close to nature, had a fulfilling life as a rural physician—I had finally found a fulfilling home.
Instead, I almost did leave Vermont feet first last August when I went to Dartmouth with a heart event that was the final demise of my former life.
The power of our thoughts! That phrase I used, feet first—and there I was riding in an ambulance, not at all upright.
Embracing impermanence--I think I finally get it, then once more those expectations sneak in. Currently I strive to live by Gandhi's philosophy that is summed up in three words: “Renounce and enjoy.” On a daily basis.
Renounce means to give up everything—to abandon all attachment--not against something, but to surrender to what is. No expectations. And then to enjoy—what is left is to enjoy whatever comes our way.
I keep that in mind as I embrace ongoing changes.
My beloved study of medicine, of becoming a physician, of being part of a rural medical community, is renounced. Like removing a crown it is. I am no longer licensed as a physician; am no longer a pharmaceutical prescriber, cannot (if I wanted to) submit insurance claims.
I am still a doctor of medicine—the MD still exists. Is my knowledge gone? No. Can I teach? Yes. Can I talk and write about medicine? Yes.
As the licensed doctor door closed, windows flew open with new opportunities--especially joy every day in simply existing. Story-telling has become my primary mode of healing and transforming; my new role as a coach is to listen carefully to stories, to honor others' stories and what emerges from them as a result.
My background as a PhD psychologist steps forward as I embrace this new life. During medical training I was astonished with the lack of acknowledgment of the psychological components of illness and healing; I can now integrate my backgrounds in both. Quite a window flying open, I’m very glad to report.
Coaching helps someone recognize more clearly his or her authority, passions, dreams, life path. Coaching can identify barriers to these; then the learning comes for how to dissolve or bypass the barriers.
Coaching at its best helps a person claim his or her place in the immense and beautiful web of life.
Now as a healer, I coach. Now by simply existing with joy as the goal each day, goodness in the world grows.